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Can Children Have Successful Relationships Post Divorce ?

Can Children Have Successful Relationships Post Divorce ?

A child is available to have a relationship with each parent but should not be available to regulate his parent’s relationship before or after a divorce. If he is put in that position he will not be free to get involved in his own relationships.  He, instead, will be caught up in his role of managing his parent’s functioning and anxiety. Instead of talking to your child about how lousy his father is you might instead work to handle yourself better with your ex. If you constantly complain to your child about his dad or mom, you are bringing him into the anxiety and he will assume the role of caretaker or peacemaker and be caught right in the middle. He will be absorbed in your life and struggles instead to be free in his own .         

By, Debbie Pincus,LMHC. Debbie is available for couple's & parent therapy/coaching.  

Email:debbie@debbiepincus.com   

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